Be an Emotionally Supportive Colleague — Without Prying
Research shows that employees who bring their authentic selves to work perform better and report greater job satisfaction. But what if a colleague doesn’t feel comfortable opening up? How can you support them? It can be as simple as asking, “How are you?” and following up if you get an “I’m fine.” You might say something like, “I know you said you were fine when I asked earlier, but I felt like something may be off, and I just wanted to check in again.” Then follow their lead on how much — or how little — they want to share. Don’t force the issue, even if you still suspect they’re struggling. Instead, focus on creating the conditions that would make anyone feel safe enough to be vulnerable, such as honoring confidentiality and respecting someone’s decision not to open up. You might say: “I respect your privacy. I’m here if you want to talk — and I won’t pry if you don’t.” This will signal compassion and support in a non-imposing way and model how to build a more open, trusting environment for everyone.
“Be a Colleague That Others Can Confide In,” by Deborah Grayson Riegel