Working Parents, Help Each Other Recharge
It’s not always easy for working parents to communicate their own needs, but it’s worth discussing with your partner how you can each make time for self-care. Before having the conversation, take a few minutes to make a list of what would most benefit you. Is it taking 15 minutes after work to decompress before jumping into child care responsibilities? Maybe it’s enjoying a couple of hours on a weeknight to read a novel. Choose one or two things that are feasible and would truly recharge you. When it’s time for you and your partner to talk, make sure you’re both free of distractions, relatively calm, and not overtired. During the conversation, remember that you’re playing for the same team. Use “I feel” statements that focus on your own experience instead of accusatory “You always” statements. Listen to your partner’s needs, and be willing to make concessions. You’ll both benefit if you approach the conversation with empathy and an open mind.
“How to Communicate Your Self-Care Needs to Your Partner,” by Jackie Coleman